Valentine’s Day
A Day for Love
On Valentines Day, when so many people spend time with a partner, it can be really hard for those who spend it alone. As singles, thoughts of what you don’t have flood into your mind as you watch others around you, enjoying the day with a loved one. Ads on TV for jewelry and gifts etc…it can be really hard for some people.
At the same time – for those who are partnered, and can spend the day with that partner, it can be lovely. No-one wants to make anyone miserable I’m sure. People who find this a sad day just get on with other things as best they can.
No matter what your circumstances are, I thought it appropriate on this day where love is celebrated, to talk about Self-Love. Not only for singles, but even for those who are partnered.
Self-love is important no matter what your circumstances are. It is from fully accepting and loving ourselves, that we are finally able to unconditionally love others.
Yes, before that we do feel love for other people, but that love can leave us. It can be watered down with time. Relationships end and what used to be love can fade or die, or even turn to hatred.
There is a Bright Side to Being Single
For those in romantic relationships, and especially those in ‘twin flame ‘ connections, I encourage you to also consider how much you love yourself and letting that be something you focus on growing within you.
For those who are single, instead of thinking about what is missing in your life, today I invite you to think about you, about the amazing person that you are. Think about the best parts of you, the love in your heart, the care you have shown others throughout your life. Acknowledge the sweetness of who you are and the joy you wish for others, even on days when you find no joy yourself.
Today, remember the freedom you have to do as YOU please. Remember that YOU decide where you go and what you do. Remember the times throughout your life that you wished to be free just to be YOU. That time is here now – embrace it!
Mothers especially – remember the days where you felt like you’d love some time out, some time alone and the option to make your own choices – about all sorts of things but right down to the simple choice of what YOU would like for dinner. I bet it was something really simple, like Vegemite toast or a boiled egg!
Embrace Your Freedom of Choice
Remember that now you can decide where you will go – if you decide to go anywhere at all. Maybe you’d like to stay in with a good book, maybe you’d like an extra hour or two of sleep. Perhaps you’d just like to listen to some music, or meditate. You might want to go for a drive for no reason at all, and with no real destination in mind.
Remind yourself that partnered people don’t always have these choices. Be aware that maybe some of those people envy you.
Maybe you really miss someone who is no longer in your life. If this is the case, then please spend today remembering how great the times you spent together were. Recognize how lucky you were to have had those times with that special person. Even if they are gone now, it’s still a gift you received and can remember.
Most of all – today please remember, or become aware, of what a beautiful person you are. Remember that YOU deserve love from YOU. Finding and loving yourself is such beautiful journey. The rewards it brings are yours forever. Become your own best friend, become the love of your own life.
Understand that self-Love is not selfish, and it will not mean that you cannot also be in love with someone else. Quite the opposite, but Self -Love is something no-one can ever take away from you.
Our Special Gifts to You
Treat yourself the way you would love someone else to treat you – it makes life so much sweeter.
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